Daniel Goleman, a psychologist and science journalist, popularized the concept of emotional intelligence in his book "Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ". He defined emotional intelligence as the ability to recognize, understand, and manage our own emotions and the emotions of others.
Goleman identified five key components of emotional intelligence:
Self-awareness is the ability to recognize and understand your own emotions, moods, and tendencies. This includes the ability to accurately identify and label your emotions, as well as an understanding of the impact of these emotions on yourself and others.
Self-regulation refers to the ability to manage your emotions and impulses. This includes the ability to manage stress, delay gratification, and avoid impulsiveness.
Motivation is the drive to achieve your goals, even in the face of adversity. People with high emotional intelligence are often highly motivated and able to sustain their efforts over time.
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It involves recognizing and responding to the emotions of others and the ability to put yourself in their shoes.
Social skills allow us to communicate effectively, collaborate, and build relationships with others. This includes influencing and persuading others, managing conflicts, and developing strong connections.
Together, these five elements make up the foundation of emotional intelligence, and they are all interrelated and work together to influence our overall emotional intelligence. By developing these skills, individuals can improve their emotional intelligence, leading to greater success in relationships, work, and life. EI improves all of our relationships!